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When I first planned to write an Olympics-themed post, back in 2020, I was going to talk about Simone Biles鈥� athletic feats being due to 鈥渁 that she might run away with any competition she enters simply by doing a handful of moves that her rivals cannot, or dare not, attempt.鈥� Biles鈥� response at the time was, 鈥�. And that鈥檚 just something that鈥檚 on them. That鈥檚 not on me. They had an open-ended code of points and now they鈥檙e mad that people are too far ahead and excelling.鈥�

I was going to compare it to how New York City keeps tweaking the Specialized High School Admissions Test in a desperate bid to perform best on it. How , not to mention and , refuse to explain the subjective metrics they use to admit their students. I was going to talk about the ongoing attempts to , and in the name of equity, as well as the push for .

But then Simone Biles withdrew from the Olympic team and all-around competitions. And, suddenly, I had something new to think 鈥� and write 鈥� about.

I鈥檒l be honest. I never knew that quitting was an option. Maybe it was the immigrant in me, but I grew up with the understanding that, no matter how unhappy you were with something, you still sucked it up and kept going. That鈥檚 just what you did. I never expected anyone to come to my aid, either. When I was feeling browbeaten and mistreated by a then-boss, my American husband said, 鈥淲hy don鈥檛 you go to Human Resources and file a complaint?鈥� The notion never crossed my mind. A few weeks later, an American colleague did just that. The boss was spoken to, and his behavior toward all of us improved. Wow. Mind鈥� blown.

滨鈥檝别 written about how, when my middle child came to me and said that he was unhappy in high school, he wanted to quit and home-school himself, my first instinct was to say no. Persevering through an unhappy situation builds character!

Those of you who鈥檝e read my know that he has plenty of character. So. Much. Character.

I, on the other hand, didn鈥檛 understand quitting simply because you were unhappy. It just didn鈥檛 compute. So what? Who cares how you feel?

Until Simone Biles.

Almost a year after I broke down and allowed my son to leave public school, I finally understood his request.

I said to my husband, 鈥淲hat if he鈥檚 right? What if you don鈥檛 have to stick out a bad situation, no matter what? What if it is OK to say, ‘this isn鈥檛 working for me’ and go looking for something that does?鈥�

Which brings me to my realization last week. There were those who said Biles should have stuck it out. Not for herself, but for her team and for her country. This wasn鈥檛 about her. This was about what she could do for others.

It鈥檚 the same argument parents get when they opt out of traditional public schools. Whether that鈥檚 because the school is not letting their children take the classes they want, as in , because the curriculum and may even be or because, despite promises to the contrary, the school can鈥檛 support a child鈥檚 special needs, ranging from to .

Every family has a different reason for making alternative arrangements for their child. But every family gets the same pushback when they leave public school: You are hurting those left behind.

They claim that if involved, active families leave a school, the remaining students will suffer. 滨鈥檝别 suggested that it鈥檚 not the teachers, administrators or facilities that make 鈥渉igh-achieving鈥� schools, but the parents in them who get their children tutored that account for the above-average test scores the schools then take credit for. If the only way schools can get even a majority of students to pass is by to prep children, isn鈥檛 that a much bigger problem? In fact, isn鈥檛 that the biggest problem of all?

Other critics contend that it鈥檚 not the involved families鈥� presence that makes the difference, but the simple fact that, when children walk out the public school door, the New York state pays in per-pupil funding for their presence goes out with them.

Families opting out means schools lose money. And lost money might mean cutting back on programs or letting a teacher or an administrator go. The implication is that parents should subsume their child鈥檚 needs to the needs of the school. It doesn鈥檛 matter if an individual child doesn鈥檛 get what they need 鈥� as long as the overall institution does. By such a metric, every single student could be getting shortchanged, but every single one is required to stay so the school that isn鈥檛 serving anyone can continue 鈥� not serving anyone?

Once upon a time, I might have fallen for both arguments. But, as Simone Biles demonstrated last week, if you鈥檙e in an untenable situation, you have to get out before your mental and physical health are permanently destroyed.

And that鈥檚 why she鈥檚 the GOAT 鈥� Greatest Of All Time.

Alina Adams is a New York Times best-selling romance and mystery writer, the author of Getting Into NYC Kindergarten and Getting Into NYC High School, a blogger at and mother of three. She believes you can’t have true school choice until all parents know all their school choices 鈥� and how to get them. Visit her website, .

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